How to approach your birth if it goes in a different direction to what you envisage.
“Hi Azeeta, thanks for your text - we had a gorgeous little girl last Thursday evening, we are so so in love with her, it’s all we’ve ever wanted, she’s perfect! We’ve called her Lottie Ann Martin. The birth didn’t go quite as planned as my water tickled for longer than 48 hours so had to go in hospital and put on an antibiotic drip. I then go induced via the drip but I was already having mild natural contractions - they gave me too much of the drug and over stimulated my uterus so I was having contractions ever my 30 seconds after being on it for only an hour I ended up having an epidural and it was an amazing experience. When it came to delivery she was facing the wrong way so I had to go into theatre to get her turned then have forceps. Overall your lessons taught me that any birth can be positive and to be open minded so I really enjoyed the experience and didn’t look at it as stressful. The only bit which wasn’t nice was that she want breathing when she came out and needed to go into intensive care for a few days so we were separated and she was in a little incubator. We finally got out of hospital on Sunday and it’s been amazing to be home and settle into family life, thanks again for everything - you were a great help and we’re so glad we went into things prepared! Xxxxxx”
Wow just wow. One of my amazing Muswell Hill clients. Positive experiences don’t have to be “the water birth, no drugs and home in four hours” it can be so many scenarios. This just shows that an epidural, forceps, turning baby in labour, complications after the birth can all be daunting and a mix of emotions but still result in POSITIVE feelings & outcomes. Welcome to the world gorgeous girl and what fab parents to have.
At 1am on the 24th September 2014 my waters broke. I woke up instinctively, rushed to the toilet, then gush. Went back to bed but found it very hard to sleep from the excitement. Woke up the next day still no contractions so just went about our day. I knew we had a 24 hour window to get things rolling so I spent the morning cleaning and on the birth ball while watching Michael McIntyre and Mock the Week. At around 11am I started to feel my surges begin. To be honest I wasn’t timing them but they were only every 20 minutes or so. But then it got to mid day and things started to ramp up. It wasn’t until 12.30pm that I turned to hubby and said “this is it we need to go”. At this point we called Lister maternity unit and they immediately said come in. The car ride was really uncomfortable the surges were coming on really strong at this point and the bumping was making me feel like he was about to fall out. We then parked on level 2 but stupidly then walked all the way to the unit stopping constantly with each surge. Once in they were very calm and slow and said they would check me but still a while to go but they will get gas and air if I need it. I got checked and I was 5cms dilated and you could see the midwife haul ass to get me a delivery room pool was made ready everyone was moving me. I had an amazing midwife called Kerry who knew I was doing hypnobirthing and she immediately closed the curtains, turned off the lights and put lovely music on. In my notes I had written don’t mention drugs unless I ask for it so she totally respected that. Fabulous language! Tommy was born at 7.12pm in the gorgeous water and he was just perfect all over. He was apparently born on the busiest time of the year so I was, too soon in my opinion, moved out of the pool where unfortunately my placenta flew out and I haemorrhaged and it became an emergency situation. I was flown into theatre but the staff were so amazing, nothing was found to be wrong and swiftly returned to my baby. For me an amazing experience, amazing staff and incredible birth experience. Second time round I made sure I was not moved!
At 41+5 days I made the big decision to have an induction. I was fully informed and educated about my choice. We went in and got the pessary and then once babies heartbeat was okay we signed ourselves out and had a wonderful 24 hours at home with our other son, Tommy. The next day we went in around 4pm and was slowly dilating but no contractions and I felt nothing so we did a second pessary. I managed to go to sleep around midnight and had a full six hours but was woken at 6am to a niggle feeling but mostly needing a wee. I then had a check, was around 4cms, around 7am (plus a sweep) and found I had to stand up all of a sudden. From then on I stood! It was bang on 7.13am that I remember the surges coming on suddenly. I was told to sit down but I couldn’t my body just needed to stand, to move, to get him into the right position. Oh did I mention at this point my amazing doula @tamaracianfini walked in like a night in shining armour demanding I get a labour room (I was on the ward). Between then and when Charlie was born the most significant thing was that my hypnobirthing totally anchored me to my husband. He had to be near me, his hand on me, talking to me and that kept me free of pain. I’m not going to lie the surges were intense, so intense I started to have no breaks in between. I couldn’t sit I had to stand and my position was leaning over the bed while Tamara held a scarf in front of me so my hands could grip it and she could grip the other side for stability. It meant I could flop my head on the bed to rest when I could. When it came to it all I remember is roaring him out. He came out so quick the midwife dropped him he was fine there was a lovely thick mat underneath but he came out perfect. He made his entrance! I couldn’t believe I had birthed a 10.10lbs baby I think the whole room was in shock for a while but I was just so glad he was finally here at exactly 42 weeks at 11.11am. The angels were watching over us...
"Hello Azeeta! At 2am this morning, my beautiful and healthy baby girl was calmly born in the water. The hypnobirthing classes really, really played such an important role in being able to have the birth we hoped for. We had a really slow latent phase (36 hours of stop and start contractions- tough!) followed by a very fast and intense active labour where I went from 5cm to delivery in just 1 hour 20 minutes (even more tough!). Just gas & air, and lots of breathing, which I was really delighted with. Ruby Alexandra Day weighs a teeny 6lb4 and is doing just perfectly. Thank you so much for the big part you played in welcoming our little girl into the world so peacefully."
Claire originally came to me for a taster class and soon after wanted to do a workshop. Claire and Chris did two sessions of 1.5 hours and we also kept in a lot of contact. When she went into labour we maintained text contact and she shone through her long first stage of labour. I could feel she had really listened and was keeping calm and relaxed so as not to get too tired. As you can see she did the most incredible job and when I received her text tears came to my eyes as I felt I had been on this journey with them. Welcome to the world beautiful Ruby!