I am currently really tired from being woken up at 4.45am by my youngest because he wanted to watch TV. But both my boys are asleep and should wake soon so I wanted to take this time to write as my OCD goes into overdrive when I'm tired.
The other day I posted about birth and had written that I had two natural births. By this I meant vaginal, but that's not something everyone wants to read, and in the birthing world the word 'natural' is used for this. This really hit a friend's heart as she felt really let down by that word as why should her caesareans not be natural? I totally totally agree. I have alway's had a problem with the term natural birth. Everyone wants one. Not everyone will get one. Is that so wrong? The whole point of doing birth preparation classes and hypnobirthing is to prepare you to become a master in relaxation and to use those tools to have coping strategies and a positive and empowering outlook for birth. Not to plan to have a particular birth that is 100% going to go your dreamt up way. We have no way in knowing how that day, or few days, is going to go. We should not plan. We should have a preference!
So I changed my post and instead decided to just put their weights. What I was originally trying to do was highlight that big babies can indeed be born vaginally which seems on the contrary to many doctors. But the fact the term 'natural' on my post could make another mum feel like a failure really hit me. That is the opposite of my goal in life. Especially as an empath I feel everything and I have problems letting emotions float away. So I want to highlight that a 'natural' birth does not mean what you think it means. It simply means 'vaginal' and we should say that...VAGINAL..!All births are so beautiful but it's how you feel about it after that's important. No matter what course it takes if you feel positive, empowered, listened to, respected, heard and happy then you rocked that birth.
Let's celebrate all births for the beauty that they are.