This is Charlie. You wouldn't look at him and think "Wow he is massive!" But he was. He is our second and he was born naturally, with no drugs, me standing and squatting at 10.10lbs. I couldn't believe it, daddy couldn't believe it and the midwife could not believe it. I was induced with Charlie as he just wasn't budging and I was okay with it. When labour finally started it only took four hours. I started out on the ward then suddenly the surges hit me like BAM. Out of nowhere and a midwife ran in and said "Do you need gas and air love" to which I replied " YES HURRY". You see I love gas and air I will not hide that fact! It has got me through both my labours so it is my dream pain reliever.
Once I was in established labour I couldn't think properly and my husband couldn't find the Wise Hippo MP3's on my phone of course. But then Tamara, my doula, turned up and the music came on. I can not describe how different the room looked. I went quiet, I started swaying and I needed my husband to hold me even just a gentle touch with his hand the entire time. The minute he let go I felt pain flood through me. How incredible! I still look back on it and can't quite understand how this hypnobirthing malarky works but it is THE single handedly best thing I ever did before the birth of my boys.
So why a relax, breathe and birth session?
If you are unsure about doing the whole course, maybe lack the funds, lack the time or just want to have some ME time that you deserve this is the class for you. I did the full hypnobirthing courses with my births as it was right for me (much to the dismay of my hubby) but if I have another I might only do this one off class so I can refocus my mind about how natural, positive and beautiful birth is and can be. You get to fully focus on you and baby for two and a half hours where we will talk about fear release, birthing your baby and birth planning, relaxation and breathing tools for birth and for life and of course do some wonderful scripts followed by obligatory tea and cake.
Remember it is about the right birth on the day not about having the picture perfect water birth walk straight out and home type of birth we fantasise about. It is about feeling empowered, listened to and positive about how your birth turns out.
I had the right births for me...so can you x
Spring showed itself yesterday and how wonderful it was. I am a mum of two young boys and the saying "my boys need to be walked twice a day" really is a fact. Winter has been really hard as we were all ill all the time. Our youngest also had a small surgery in November, which was emotional, so everyone has really felt the winter blues. But yesterday was a different day. We went out just in jumpers...no coats! We all ran straight to the park twice yesterday and spent as long as we could there before one of us got hungry or thirsty. It was utter bliss!
Charlie, our youngest, is eighteen months old and we recently admitted defeat that he is one tough cookie to handle. He is in that much loved stage by every parent called Tantrum Gate. This isn't a normal cry for ten minutes this is constant crying and throwing his whole body around for forty five minutes or more! Yep, forty five minutes. But go outside and he is an absolute darling. So yesterday was the first day in a long time my husband came home from work and I said "hunny I had the most wonderful day with the children" and I am not ashamed to admit that is a rare sentence. It was just so wonderful we went from swings, to slide, to exploring the mounds, entering the woods and then pulling Charlie out before he went into the stinging nettles. Being out with the sun on our faces and fresh air in our lungs was just what we needed to recharge. It made my children "normal" children...whatever that is.
So, I am looking forward to the warmer weather coming in and hopefully being able to say we are having amazing days everyday as sometimes children and adults just need a bit of sun to get the oxytocin running again.
Today is mum day.
I am a mum of two boys aged 18 months and 3.5 years. I love them to bits and MORE but half of me is also a working woman. I absolutely love my job, which isn't alway's the case for some, so I feel very fortunate to be able to go to work and look forward to it. This is what happens when I am at home with the boys but they both fortunately nap in the middle of the day. I make sure the house is tidy enough before they sleep so I can completely focus on work.
Yesterday I had a lovely honest and open chat with a dear dear friend and this came up. How do we as mums switch off our mum hat for our work hat? For me I am self employed so I had to go back to work slowly when they were both only 5 months old. First time round that was really hard I cried a lot and thought I would never be ME again. But second time was much much easier and over time I can switch my mum hat off and put my work hat on. Anyway, sorry I'm a bit sleep deprived with this time change, my point is that it takes time to learn things and switch between those hats so take that time and it will come. Don't rush things and get annoyed at yourself if you can't switch those hats. Give yourself time to learn how to do it again. It might only be 3 minutes to start with but those 3 minutes are amazing.
Right back to work 😊